Utterly Mad

My net is too potato to handle hosting stuff, but I would recommend using ZDL to handle the mod loading and server stuff, and either Zandronum or (G)ZDoom. Zandronum tends to lag less when used for multiplayer, but I've encountered issues when hosting ZDL with it on occasion depending on the current quality of my net.

Meanwhile...I am now adorned in glorious plate armor, with an awl pike and heater shield.